No matter what you think, facing reality is better.
Radically accepting the reality in front of you means opening up to the possibility that what once seemed loathsome may be opportunity to grow. You may hate it, despise it, or plain refuse. This is the clincher. This is your opening. This is precisely the place to look for new solutions adaptations and re-imaging your life. What is in front of you is your palette.
Several years ago, I found myself alone in a new town with a job I hated. Even the grocery stores were "wrong" and didn't carry the foods I was used to. I couldn't get the treats or meals I had become accustomed to. This made the pain of being alone - with my husband out of state - and the lack of friends with whom I could commiserate- intensely painful for me.
I had to take three days to sit with it. Just sit in the pain and look at it. Then, a beautiful thing happened. I realized that there were no rules for this. If I didn't know how to deal with this, it meant I got to play with it, and see what happened. I perked up, started calling people, and began to collect recipes to make my favorite foods from scratch. Yes - I learned to cook. I also learned that the friends in front of you - even if you don't like them at first, can become really loving friends you adore and cherish for their own quirks.
Had I remained closed to the opportunity to play with the reality in front of me, I don't think I would have ever discovered the four great gifts I developed during that time.
What is real and in front of you that you loathe? Can you make friends with it? Can you play with it? I detest the term "making lemonade" - that seems dumb. Oranges don't make Mountain Dew - but there is some in there. No - Mountain Dew is a radical change, a perversion even, of the fruits involved. But it is good to the taste and a great treat on occasion.
What reality have you been avoiding that you could try a new approach to?
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